I’ve asked a handful of people what Girl Power means to them.
All of them said, The Spice Girls.
And I couldn’t agree more. I was Spice Girl obsessed. I’m glad I grew up listening to the Spice Girls and not the music there is today. I remember going to the corner store with my friend Bethany and buying Spice Girl lollipops. I was so obsessed that I kept the wrappers because I thought one day they might be worth something, I was a weird kid.
But let’s get real here. Girl power to me is the ability to do anything, but I just realized that. There is something about owning your own business that makes you feel invincible. I didn’t always feel this way, my life in a nutshell:
-After I graduated high school I worked at Starbucks.
-I never went to college or university.
-I made coffee everyday for 5 years, I loved it and I hated it.
-Then I moved away, I bought a house with a boy.
-I thought I was going to get married, have kids and become a stay at home mom at the ripe age of 21. (say wahhhh?)
-We broke up.
-I moved back home.
-I still worked at Starbucks.
-Plan A didn’t work out, what was plan B?
I had zero desire to go to university & rack up $25,000+ student loans, I also thought I wasn’t smart enough.
I didn’t want to work retail for the rest of my life.
I also didn’t want to sling coffee for the rest of my life.
I wasn’t going to go into a “mens trade”, although they slightly interested me.
So what was left? My brain said: hair school or nail technician.
I chose hair.
When it’s broken down that way, I’m a little shocked at myself. I basically just wrote that at one point in my life I felt that I wasn’t smart enough to go back school, that I couldn’t go into a “men’s trade” because I was a women and that my only other options were in the beauty industry. At least I thought I was beautiful?
On my first day of hair school I got lost. I started to panic and I cried on the street because I couldn’t find my way. I was VERY nervous, I probably threw up that morning. It was basically the first decision I had ever made entirely on my own. I told myself on the street to get it together and that I HAD TO find the building. Turns out, I was standing right outside the building the whole friggen time.
If you told that girl on her first day of hair school that one day she’ll be using power tools and running her own business, she would probably laugh. She would laugh because she didn’t have the confidence to find what she truly wanted to do or be. She went to hair school because she thought she had no other options. Now this is in no way bashing hairstylists. It’s a HARD job, I know it first hand. But I think you should go into a career because you are passionate about it, not because you think it’s your plan b.
I worked in the hair industry for almost 5 years before moving on to another job that still wasn’t my TRUE passion. It’s hard to find your true passion in life and I think we are in fact entitled to have more then one. I’ve learnt a lot since I was that shy girl on the first day of hair school, many things in my life have changed. I am no longer the same. Starting this business has brought a new person out of me. This amazing, fierce, open, and positive person.
Going into 2017, I vow to not be afraid to do anything. I can be scared to do something, but I cannot be afraid and unwilling to try. I want to break out of my own mold, that I made. I want to feel nervous when I try something new. I want to never think I’m incapable of doing something ever again. The words, “I can’t” are permanently erased from my vocabulary and thought process. If I close my eyes, I can see myself standing on top of a mountain (dropped off by a helicopter of course), holding a big flag that says “Mother Fucking Girl Power!”
I asked my boyfriend what Girl Power means. He obviously said, The Spice Girls. So I asked, if he had a daughter and she wore a t-shirt that said Girl Power, what would that mean?
He said, and I quote: “It means that women are equal if not more powerful than men.”
Then from the kitchen he yelled, WHO RUNS THE WORLD?
I yelled back, GIRLS.